The Truth About ABA: Kind, Supportive, and Built for Growth

If you’ve seen conversations online about ABA therapy or BCBAs (Board Certified Behavior Analysts), you might have come across some strong opinions. Some people say ABA is too controlling or that BCBAs don’t respect kids' voices.

And while it’s true that some past practices in ABA weren’t great—and some families had hard experiences—it’s also true that the field has grown. A lot.

Today’s ABA is focused on being kind, respectful, and personalized. And most BCBAs are here for one reason: to help children learn and thrive in ways that work for them.

So, What Do BCBAs Actually Do?

Modern BCBAs work with families to:

• Teach communication, social, and daily living skills
• Help reduce challenging behaviors through positive support
• Make routines smoother and less stressful
• Use strategies that are backed by science—and full of compassion

They don’t just “fix behavior”—they build relationships, follow the child’s lead, and create goals that matter to the family.

ABA Today Is Not What It Used to Be

ABA has changed. And it’s still changing. Today’s best BCBAs:

• Use gentle, play-based, and respectful methods
• Avoid harmful or outdated techniques
• Include families every step of the way
• Focus on what helps the child feel safe, understood, and successful

Let’s Be Honest

Yes—some people had bad experiences. Those stories matter. But that doesn’t mean all ABA is bad, or that all BCBAs are the same.

There are thousands of thoughtful, caring, highly trained BCBAs doing amazing work—helping kids find their voice, learn new things, and feel confident every day.

💛 In Summary:

ABA done right is not about control—it’s about connection, growth, and real-life success. And the best BCBAs are always listening, learning, and working to make the field even better.

Let’s keep the conversation going—with kindness, openness, and the shared goal of helping kids shine. 

Melanie Hegner, MA, BCBA